“I don’t know.” These words seem so harmless. They feel like a fact when our brain offers it. Our brain can repeat them over and over making them feel so real. The reality is that it keeps us stuck. It keeps us in confusion. It keeps us in a place we don’t want to be. We are not comfortable where we are, yet being in confusion can seem more comfortable than taking the next step, making that next decision.
Saying “I don’t know” is a very tricky way of avoiding saying “I’m scared.”
I’m scared to speak my truth.
I’m scared to find out what happens next. What if I don’t like the results more than what is happening now? At least I know what is happening now.
I’m scared to produce the thing that I know will help launch me to the next level of business. So…I will keep saying I don’t know what to do next and basically give myself permission NOT to take the next step…even when I have all the resources to do so.
When “I don’t know” happens, it’s like I’m paralyzed with my mind freewheeling out of control and telling me I need someone to tell me what to do because I just don’t know how to do it…I need another person in my profession to tell me what to do to be successful…I know what is happening now isn’t working...I can’t live like this anymore…I don’t know, I just don’t know what to do. ..I can’t make the decision because I don’t know what the right one is…I’m stuck in this place…I’m not happy but I can’t seem to figure out how to get out of it…I know I need help but I’m not sure what I need help with.
But what if you did know? What if the answers where there? What if you just kept asking yourself and being open and honest with yourself? Because It’s ALWAYS there. Always. For that matter, what if we just told ourselves “I don’t know” is no longer welcome option in our vocabulary?
Letting go of “I don’t know” means feeling uncomfortable. It also means learning self-trust, knowing yourself on a deeper level. Falling in love with yourself. You always know if you stop and listen.
Because we do know. We DO.
Once we've moved past “I don’t know,” we may find we get our desired result. Or the result may need fine tuning, or we learned from situation and pushed ourselves in a way that we didn’t know we could. Sometime the things that we KNOW is that we must choose the hard way, the way we know is not going to be easy, but in the long run it is the right thing to do. Sometimes we are afraid it can cause conflict, the thing we want to avoid. Yet we know deep down that it is needed to serve our higher good. We might lose someone if we do know, and that would be hard. What if we did know and are just afraid of the success it would bring.
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